Tuesday, 29 August 2006

• Justifying the gray?

  I hate gray. I even despise the term gray. And what I hate more is when people, ESPECIALLY WOMEN, try to justify the gray. If this is you, QUIT IT!
  
  I'll be honest, there was a time in my life in which I was too busy justifying the gray to realize how lame I was being, but I'm so glad it was short-lived and is now over.
  
  Think back to when you realized just how important being a woman of God was to you. Remember the moment YOU SWORE that God was enough to satisfy your heart, and whoever followed was just an EXTRA blessing that you'd MAKE SURE to keep Christ-centered. Have you altered your standards? Have you tried to tailor-fit the rules of a God-worthy love story, to make your current "status" OKAY in your mind?
  
  Try your absolute hardest to step out of the situation you are trapped in. And in your place put your most beloved little sister. Would you be glad to allow her to follow in your foot-steps?
  
  I'm speaking particularly to the "older" sisters. What is going on? When did it become okay to be a girlfriend to someone that didn't want to proudly and officially claim it? When did it become acceptable to act as someone's girlfriend without making sure they worked for the privilege? When did we forget what we were meant to be worth?
  
  And how can we act as a sisters in Christ or allow any sister to look up to us when it comes to romance, if deep down we know that somewhere along the way we chose to do it our way instead of HIS? And for those of you that  ONLY share your relationship or seek spiritual direction from sisters that are going through the exact same thing as you and making the exact same choices as you, you've got to be kidding me! Congratulations on making one of the most effortless attempts at strengthening your conditional faith.
  
  I think everyone has to go through a little gray at some point in their life. But come on now, enough is enough. Quit lying to yourselves, and hiding your heart from God.
  
  Growing up in this ministry as a sister, you've probably heard about what you're worth and just how much you're worth over and over and over again. But all  sugar-coating aside, all you will ever be worth is what you make yourself to be. So if you're hung up on the jerk that hurt you repeatedly and still doesn't want to be official or hung up on the immature guy that heavily flirts with every girl possible when you aren't around, then acts like he only has eyes for you when you are, well I hate to break it to you, but those are the only kinds of guys that you will be worth. Stop selling yourself so short.
  
  Too many of us stay in gray relationships because we're too afraid of being alone. We stay in the gray because we can't stand the thought of seeing him with someone else. We stay in the gray because we've already become attached emotionally and/or physically. Don't be one of those girls. And if you aren't strong enough to put an end to the gray, then maybe you have to ask yourself if God was EVER enough for you anyway?
  
  PS. Trash the US AGAINST THE WORLD mentality. No one is going to give you a cookie for it. And anyway, do you really want  a love that can't be celebrated and shared with everyone that means most to you? Oh, and if you're giving a relationship a 2nd chance, DO IT RIGHT. Atleast be open and honest and proud of it. Give people a reason to respect your decisions. A relationship that's secretive only leaves room for mischief. If you're giving a relationship a 3rd chance, well....WHY?! haha but really, everything you've just read will probably go in one ear and out the other because you're already a lost cause anyway!. hahaha (was that mean?) Oh well.
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  SORRY FOR THE EXCESSIVE CONTENT. I think there is something in the water because there is just wayyyyyyyyy to much gray going on for me to handle. hahaha
  
  PPS. Can I just say that with all the weddings approaching this upcoming year I AM SOOOO EXCITED FOR FALLING IN LOVE, and doing it right...just like some of my favorite women have done. They are the proof in the pudding.
  

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